Discernment in Dating™ - Facilitator's Guide
Lead Others Into Clarity, Wisdom, and Healthy Relationship Decisions
Guide Description
This facilitator’s guide equips leaders, coaches, and ministry facilitators to confidently deliver the Discernment in Dating™ Workshop with clarity, structure and impact.
It provides step-by-step instruction to help participants move from emotional decision-making to intentional, discernment-based dating rooted in wisdom and alignment.
Purpose of This Guide:
To help facilitators:
Teach discernment in a clear, structured framework
Guide participants through self-awareness and pattern recognition
Create safe environments for honest reflection
Lead participants toward wise, confident relationship decisions
What’s Included:
1. Teaching Framework
Full breakdown of all 3 sessions
Key concepts: alignment, counterfeits, red flags, timing
Suggested teaching language
2. Facilitation Flow
Opening script and expectations
Time management guidance
Smooth transitions between sections
3. Discussion Prompts
Individual reflection questions
Small group discussion guides
Large group debrief questions
4. Practical Exercises
Pattern recognition worksheet
Red flag identification activity
Dating scenario breakdowns
Decision-making framework exercise
5. Facilitator Insights
Common dating misconceptions participants bring
How to address emotional attachment and defensiveness
How to guide without controlling decisions
Facilitator Outcomes:
Facilitators will be able to:
Confidently lead dating discernment conversations
Help participants identify patterns and blind spots
Guide wise decision-making without imposing outcomes
Create environments that encourage honesty and growth
Recommended Settings
Singles ministry workshops
Church events and relationship series
Small group studies
Coaching or mentoring sessions
Retreats and intensives
Tone & Facilitation Posture
Facilitators should lead with:
Truth with compassion
Clarity without judgment
Guidance without pressure
Wisdom without control
Key Facilitator Reminder
Your role is not to tell participants who to choose — but to help them see clearly enough to choose wisely.
